Hey Hazel!
What is your opinion of girls paying for dates instead of guys? Is it female empowerment or just proof that chivalry is really dead?
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Location: PG County, MD
Dear Anonymous Modern Woman,
I believe that there is absolutely nothing wrong with a woman paying for a meal and or drinks if she wants to. That being said its still a sticky situation. On one side you dont want him to think that he can cash this dinner in for some action, but you also should let a guy feel manly every now and then (especially if it means saving a dime or two of your hard-earned money!). If its a first date I suggest letting the guy pay for dinner then you can pay for drinks after or offer to buy a bottle of wine for desert. At the very least make an obvious effort. That way he can accept without feeling threatened or decline without feeling used.
However, if your date is not willing to pay at all then that is a total different story. We live in a society and a time where the majority of women work and make their own way, its understood that we could pay for the meal. To me that's all the more reason why the man should offer. A sort of "were all just tryna make it, lemme buy you a nice dinner" type of thing. Refusal to pay or help pay for a meal is what we in the biz like to call a "red flag". There are of course exceptions, in an established relationship or long term dating situation you should pay for food and or drinks every now and then. Relationships need to be 50/50. First dates do not.
Despite immense personal evidence to the contrary, I do not believe chivalry is dead. Its out there, but its probably taken or gay.
Chivalry is not dead! Maybe I'm old-fashioned, but I beleive guys should pay for the first couple of dates, especially if they are the ones who asked you out. It can be something in their means, nothing outrageous. It sets the tone for the whole relationship and how much they value your company.
ReplyDeleteThat's a good point, the first few dates really do set the tone. And I think most guys want to pick up at least the first bill. Everyone is different so just make sure that what you expecting is being delivered. Thanks for reading :)
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