Hey Hazel,
I've been dating this guy on and off for years,but it never seemed like the right time to be in a committed relationship. However, now that we're both out of college and working professionals we spend a lot of time together and our conversations have been getting pretty serious lately (marriage and kids talk). We're very compatible and when I'm out with other guys I find myself thinking about only him. However, it sucks because his job will soon be relocating him to another state, and potentially out of the country! Just thinking about it depresses me. I told him I think we should take a step back because the future is so uncertain and I'd rather end on a good note then have everything fizzle out because of a long-distance relationship. He says we can make it work. Do you think a long-distance relationships have a chance of survival or do you think I am right to fall back?
Sent from: Shelly, Long Beach, CA
Dear Shelly,
To be completely honest long-distance relationships are tough. It can seem like little problems are blown out of proportion. I feel that sometimes the distance makes it hard to get closure or resolution after a fight or problem. Maybe its the lack of making up. *sly wink*. Clearly you like this guy and I understand why you want to give it a shot and not give up on him. Plus, the fact that hes willing to make it work speaks volumes. I suggest maybe taking a break and when he moves give him time to adjust then if you find that life is not the same then you can try long distance. There is really no need to rush he seems like a great guy and the fact that hes been around for so many years, makes me confident that if hes single he will be more than willing to try it again whenever your ready.
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